This is called "triangulation" and it's a very common sign that abuse is going on. Now, all moms have guilted a kid into doing something or other at least once. He won't show any independence from his family, even though he's way too old to be acting that way.
26 Gerry Mulligan: The Best of the Gerry Mulligan Quartet with Chet Baker (Pacific Jazz 1952-57) deleted The avuncular-sounding baritone saxophonist teamed up with the lyrical trumpeter, Chet Baker, and a piano-less rhythm section of just bass and drums. 27 Ella Fitzgerald: Pure Ella (1950-54) deleted Ella’s voice was at a peak of creamy perfection when she made these sides with only the dulcet piano accompaniment of Ellis Larkins: a superb recital of American popular song.